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When faced with a large decision, we tend to lack rituals and procedures. Many times we mindlessly make them…

You deserve to be held with kindness, and you owe it to yourself to give it to you first.

Honoring our passed loved ones will help us stay in our present moments.

Phases are all part of our journey

Making conflicts in relationships work for us.

Offer words of compassion to someone who frequently complains instead of avoiding them or judging them for being negative…

There is often a default assumption that transgender identity is based in the idea of pain and suffering as a prerequisite. But that's not the point. The reason we transition is to find joy, and to love ourselves,

So often communication breaks down in a relationship. You can see it everywhere. People defending their position…

Anhedonia is the inability to feel pleasure. It is one of the many symptoms of depression as well as other mental illnesses…

Gender reveal parties can be exclusionary and humiliating to those that do not fit in the binary construct. For example, inviting a non binary person to a pink and blue gender reveal party for them to pick what gender they think the baby will be.

One of the hardest aspects of transitioning is reaching the point where you are comfortable hearing your name and your pronouns correctly.

These complicated role celebrations may trigger those affected and leave them stressed about how to handle these dates.

We have to get to know and be honest about our particular strategies for dealing with vulnerability and learn to be mindful to allow ourselves to experience more of that vulnerability rather than less of it…

Yesterday during my walk with my puppy I was so engaged with the beauty around me, the delightful smells and sounds of nature…

What are the things that were most striking to you about you?

Are there things you would like to develop or change?

How would you like…

I caught the tail end of a show with a segment that was a little unnerving to me because it didn't give the full description of the human experience…

Hope and fear come from a feeling that we lack in something.

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These feelings come from a sense of poverty. We can't simply relax within ourselves…

So, as I realized that I had locked myself out of my running car and locked myself out of my house (first thing this morning) I heard the Universe speak. Slow down, deep breaths, pay attention to this moment…

Everyone knows that some events are just bad and make you sad or angry, and some are good and make you glad.

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Yet what everyone knows might not be true…

Yesterday morning my friend was stopping by to bring me some goodies. As always, she walked in and I cheerfully said hello only to be greeted with "Vickie will you please call the number on the tag" She gently laid a tiny suffering dog on my counter that she had gathered up from the road…

We all have to make difficult decisions about loved ones. And sometimes those decisions can be unnerving for us because we may have to set a boundary or create distance…

When we go to therapy we tend to want to eradicate the anxiety, depression or angst that we are experiencing. Like we are pulling weeds from a garden…

"Most people are going to have two or three marriages or committed relationships in their adult life. Some of us will have them with the same person." - Esther Perel, LMFT

The innocent mistake that keeps us caught in our own particular style of ignorance, unkindness and shut downness is that we have not been encouraged to see clearly what is, with gentleness…