Dealing with Vulnerability
We have to get to know and be honest about our particular strategies for dealing with vulnerability and learn to be mindful to allow ourselves to experience more of that vulnerability rather than less of it.
To open yourself up to need, longing, dependency, and reliance on others means opening yourself to the truth that none of us can do this on our own. Isolation is harmful.
We really do need each other, just as we need parents and teachers. And yes, many times we choose those parents or teachers instead of the ones we were raised with. Dare to not be alone.
We need all those people in our lives who make us feel so uncertain. They show us the contrast. It allows us to find our way towards those who are safe. And we can continually and purposefully choose safe people while keeping healthy boundaries on the others that demonstrate the contrast.
The goal is not getting to a place where we are going to escape all that contrast, but creating a container that allows us to be more and more human and to be able feel more and more.