You deserve to be held with kindness, and you owe it to yourself to give it to you first.

Honoring our passed loved ones will help us stay in our present moments.

Making conflicts in relationships work for us.

So often communication breaks down in a relationship. You can see it everywhere. People defending their position…

Anhedonia is the inability to feel pleasure. It is one of the many symptoms of depression as well as other mental illnesses…

We have to get to know and be honest about our particular strategies for dealing with vulnerability and learn to be mindful to allow ourselves to experience more of that vulnerability rather than less of it…

Yesterday during my walk with my puppy I was so engaged with the beauty around me, the delightful smells and sounds of nature…

So, as I realized that I had locked myself out of my running car and locked myself out of my house (first thing this morning) I heard the Universe speak. Slow down, deep breaths, pay attention to this moment…

Everyone knows that some events are just bad and make you sad or angry, and some are good and make you glad.

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Yet what everyone knows might not be true…

Yesterday morning my friend was stopping by to bring me some goodies. As always, she walked in and I cheerfully said hello only to be greeted with "Vickie will you please call the number on the tag" She gently laid a tiny suffering dog on my counter that she had gathered up from the road…

We all have to make difficult decisions about loved ones. And sometimes those decisions can be unnerving for us because we may have to set a boundary or create distance…

When we go to therapy we tend to want to eradicate the anxiety, depression or angst that we are experiencing. Like we are pulling weeds from a garden…

"Most people are going to have two or three marriages or committed relationships in their adult life. Some of us will have them with the same person." - Esther Perel, LMFT

The innocent mistake that keeps us caught in our own particular style of ignorance, unkindness and shut downness is that we have not been encouraged to see clearly what is, with gentleness…

We can become more compassionate with ourselves and the world, even during times of discord.…

Our histories with pathological relationships, no matter how long or short, create what is called cognitive distortions. Distortions are memories, dipped in trauma…

People experiencing mental health conditions often face rejection, bullying and even discrimination. This can make their journey, our journey, to recovery longer and more difficult…