Compassionate Boundaries
We all have to make difficult decisions about loved ones.
And sometimes those decisions can be unnerving for us because we may have to set a boundary or create distance. Often we avoid conflict and protect our good image by being kind when we should say a definite "no”.
Being compassionate doesn't imply only trying to be good.
When we find ourselves in an aggressive relationship, we need to set clear boundaries.
The kindest thing we can do for everyone concerned is to know when to say that is "enough". Many people use compassion or kindness as a time to justify self debasement. This is called Idiot Compassion. It will shut our hearts down and allow others to walk over us.
I have heard it said that to continue with our vow of compassion we must learn when to stop aggression and draw the line.