Women’s Relationships
Women's relationships can be extremely enriching or equaling belittling.
Let's take a quick look at the weapons women use against each other.
1) Betrayal
2) Gossip
3) Lying
4) Competition
Women tend to be raised with the belief that they must fight against others to get their needs met. That asking for their needs is a selfish or a self centered thing to do. So, we are left with the idea that "if I give to myself I must not be able to give to you". Or there just simply isn't enough to go around, whether that is time, attention, affection or resources. "If I am pleasing myself how can I please you?" So, the weapons are brought out and used to get needs met. On the contrast men are raised with the fundamental belief that "I will get mine and you can get yours too". Couple that with a co-dependent woman who gives to the man at her expense she will have an arsenal of weapons to use in a passive aggressive fashion. She is starving to death.
5 reasons women betray each other:
1) Women don't honor female relationships
2) Women seek external validations
3) Women do not honor themselves
4) Women mimic what they have seen their female role models do
5) Women hold unrealistic demands on themselves and other women
Underneath it all examine your own self hatred and how that fuels these dynamics in female relationships. There is enough to go around and when we as women feed ourselves, the cup is full, it runs over and feeds those around us that we love.
Learn to take care of your female relationships differently and love yourself first like your life depends on it.
Dig into this idea of why women’s relationships can be riddled with difficulty and ask yourself how do I engage this way? What can I do to make this different for me and my female relationships?